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Last Post: Apr 07 2012 02:47 AMby: RMS

Para Blue
Para Blue
Member since:
3/25/11

Being 24 having to use Depends

Mar 25 2011 11:09 AM

This is really embarrassing having to use depends and tena and other brands at the age of 24 years old. I just had my son and I feel like it is alot of pressure. Having to change myself as well as my 10 month old on a daily bases for a while is more than a notion is there anyone around my age out there having the same issue or something similar??
irish1980
irish1980
Member since:
9/21/09

RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Mar 25 2011 02:36 PM

im 30 and incont, id be happy to anwser any questions you have and help with any issues
tlane
tlane
Member since:
3/31/09

RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Mar 25 2011 05:01 PM

i have beenincont sincemy teens if you think 24 is hard try being a teen girl having to deal with incont i am both and bladder and bowel incont at my prom under my dress i was wearing a depend fitted breif
Trish
Bernadette
Bernadette
Member since:
3/31/09

RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Mar 27 2011 11:25 AM

Hi Para Blue. I am near your age, I'm 26. I have needed to wear some kind of protection since I was a teenager when problems started with increasing frequency and urgency and small leakages, and things got worse until by a couple of years ago I was having regular full accidents. I have now thankfully had quite a bit of improvement with medication but I still need to wear pads and the problems can be worse some times than others - so there are some days, particularly in situations when I know I won't easily be able to get to a toilet, where I still use a brief style pad.
I'm sorry to hear how difficult things are for you and when things come on suddenly it must be much harder to deal with. Also when you are caring for a young baby and have all the demands and responsibilities of that to deal with as well. I hope you've found a product that works well for you and that makes things as good as they can be at the moment - I found that that really does make a big difference to quality of life and to reducing the impact the issue has. And I hope you are able to get some help from the doctor. It took a long long time in my case to get support and for things to be taken seriously, it seemed, but when I did there was some notable improvement so it is worth persisting.
Erica23
Erica23
Member since:
8/3/09

RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Mar 28 2011 05:06 PM

Its is embarrassing at times... just keep you head up and you can get through anything. One thing that helps me is that I told my best friend about my continence issues right from the beginning. Even if you only tell one person thats close to you it can make you feel better about it... like you dont have to hide it all the time.
Gena69
Gena69
Member since:
3/1/11

RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Mar 30 2011 03:23 AM

Para Blue, Erica is correct, we all face moments of embarrassment while suffering from incontinence regardless of age. She is also right in the benefit of having a friend you can confide in. It helped my confidence a great deal to have a couple friends who were aware of my situation, yet did not feel a need to treat me any differently. They really helped take away the feeling that I was keeping a secret and the pressures that can cause.

I am older that you, so I cannot relate specifically to being 24, but I do understand some of the age embarrassment that comes from the stereotype of incontinence being an issue for the elderly. I found that to be a very temporary source of embarrassment as I realized that there are many people out there who are facing issues that we just don't know about. For example, a couple months ago I found out a longtime friend has required daily protection since we were in college together. Granted she is able to manage with just a pad, but the fact remained that this beautiful woman, always dressed to the nines, active and a business professional has always been wearing protection and I never had any idea.

I can definately relate to the pressures of being a mom with young children and the frustration you somtimes feel when you need to change yourself after having just completed a round of changing the babies.

Hang in there, you are definately not alone!
mpar
mpar
Member since:
12/24/10

RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Apr 03 2011 05:31 AM

i have oab over active bladder and i wear diapers and im only 22
shadow2010
shadow2010
Member since:
3/13/11

RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Apr 04 2011 02:36 PM

i am 25 now i started where protection when i was in my teens .i've no sense when i have to go so i have to have protection 24 hours a day.
Brandie
Brandie
Member since:
3/31/09

RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Apr 05 2011 12:30 PM

Welcome Para Blue. Yes its embarassing. I guess the alternative is worse. I'm a mother of 3. Going through the ups and downs of incontinence with My 3 pregnancys and finally becoming completly disabled and incontinent durning My third. I know all too well the indescribable feeling of dealing with your childrens diapers as well as Your own. Watching them grow and as My youngest daughter was getting out of diapers it was aparent that momma would not. I'm in My early 40s now and over the last 10 years I have had to spend months at a time in a fulltime care facility. Allmost all the other residents were much older then Me. I'm back home now with My family hopefully for a long time.
TDXSP08
TDXSP08
Member since:
5/17/09

RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Apr 09 2011 04:35 PM

Hey there is no reason to be young and afraid of "incon" for the last 2 years i was on the "job" woman always wanted to date me, they always tried to slip me their phone number i was a "side of beef" on display i was a FIrefighter, how many of those woman do you think would have stayed around if there "side of Beef" dropped his trousers to reveal a Diaper!!!

Peace
Dooley123
Dooley123
Member since:
6/21/11

RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Jun 22 2011 08:46 AM

I was about 22 years old when I first started having the problem of incon. I am now 59 and the problem got worse as I aged. It's not that I am imbarrassed about it. The issue with me is the cost. Over a period of years, needing to wear something to prevent accidents has become very costly.

I live in New York City; and everything here cost an arm and a leg!!
Shelley83
Shelley83
Member since:
6/24/11

RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Jun 23 2011 05:42 PM

I am 27 and I am having to use the absorbant undergarments too... It can be difficult sometimes, but just be strong and know that you aren't the only one who has to deal with things like this. There are a lot of people out there in the same boat.
JaneF
JaneF
Member since:
11/17/10

Re: RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Jun 24 2011 10:26 AM

The value of a community like this is that it opens up possibilities, rather than closing off options, when a person has a less than pleasant condition. You know you're not alone; you can gain from each experience; you can empathize because you understand; because each and every one of you can relate.

You're all terrific.

JaneF
EARL H
EARL H
Member since:
3/30/09

Re: RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Jun 24 2011 01:35 PM

As a wise minister once said:

" Tough Times Never last , Tough People Do "

And:

Discover the power of " Positive Thinking "

Strength and inspiration are all around you both here and out yonder. You need just open the door.
My "door" is alway open and I'm just a post away.
All The Best,
Earl H.
JaneF
JaneF
Member since:
11/17/10

Re: RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Jun 25 2011 05:55 AM

There is a great article about boosting our morale and self confidence that speaks volumes to this discussion. If we feel good about ourselves and what we've done and can do in our lives, meeting challenges like incontinence becomes less onerous.

Of the suggestions in "Maintain a Healthy Self-Confidence," this is the most challenging for me:

"Never compare your life to others’ lives. As the saying goes, “To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.” It’s okay to be inspired by others’ achievements but there’s no point in comparing your abilities and successes with those of other people. Remind yourself of your uniqueness and channel your energies into cultivating the life you alone were meant to live."

JaneF
Carol B
Carol B
Member since:
3/31/09

Re: RE: Being 24 having to use Depends

Jul 18 2011 08:56 AM

30-something, two kids.

Here's how I think about it: I wish all the problems in life were as easily solved as changing a plastic-backed pad.

It's a lot easier than 20 years ago when I was a teenager dealing with cloth diapers. Even then, I stopped being embarrassed about it about a week after it started. Having a practical and understanding mother helped a lot.
Christy1987
Christy1987
Member since:
4/6/12

RE: I'm 18 and I'm in depends

Apr 05 2012 10:45 PM

Im 18 and im in depends s o s
Christy1987
Christy1987
Member since:
4/6/12

RE: I'm 18

Apr 05 2012 10:57 PM

Im 18 and I'm both bladder and bowel incont what do i do help me
RMS
RMS
Member since:
3/31/09

RE: I'm 18

Apr 07 2012 02:47 AM

Hi, Christy. There's not much information in your posts, so I'm going to assume that you've already seen all the doctors you needed to see and that your condition is permanent. If that's the case, then your best bet, as hard as it may be, is to find the best protection and go about the business of living your life.

If you can be more specific about the kind of help you're looking for, then people here might be able to offer some guidance.

-RMS

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